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Bisexuality and Lesbianism

Updated: Jan 15, 2022

This is an excerpt from my book, Real Sex Issues.

It's quite lengthy but in light of the recent ruling, I pray that it provides

biblical clarity and reconciliation for those who struggle with it.

‘A transsexual said he didn’t know whether he was a man or woman; find out who you are in Christ and go from there.’ - Gregory Dickow, Pastor, Life Changers Int’l Church

This is a very sensitive topic and I must tell you upfront, I’ve never been with a woman therefore, I don’t have an experiential background; neither do I have a definitive answer for its root, cause, and effect. But what I will share, is what I received by the Spirit of God, after I prayed and asked Him to teach me how to minister to those who struggle with it. We’ll start our study in Genesis 1:27. ‘…God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.’ Notice God created the male and female at the same time; but it wasn’t until Genesis 2:7 that He ‘…formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.’ Though God created both male and female – at the same time; at this point in history, the female had not become a living being. Therefore, man was the only one present.

Genesis 2:21, 22 says, ‘…the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.’ Here we see God taking a part out of man and making that part into a woman. Now the question becomes, what part? Here, the scripture says ‘the rib’. The Hebraic definition for rib is tselá which means ‘the side or beam1’. Foundationally, the side of a thing or a beam is used for support. Therefore, it is safe to conclude that God took Adam’s support and made it into a woman. And as such, a woman was created to support her man. Is this true today? Absolutely, but there’s more!

Again, Genesis 2:22 says, ‘Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman.’ The LORD God specifically took the man’s rib and with that rib He made it into a woman. That means within that rib was everything that a woman represents; her reproductive ability, social and intellectual skills, and more importantly – her femininity. Therefore, there was a feminine side in Adam that God deliberately took out and made into a woman; which means God intentionally removed the femininity out of man. That tselá – the part or ‘side’ of him that had feminine tendencies was intentionally taken out of him – by God. And as such, may explain why those who struggle with homosexuality tend to believe they were ‘born that way’.

Without going into great detail, man’s desire to be feminine or the act of homosexuality came into existence as soon as Adam partook of the fruit. At that moment, ‘through one man sin entered the world, and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men.’ (Romans 5:12) When sin entered the world, man’s thinking changed. No longer did men want to do what God originally intended, but they ‘[left] the natural use of [women and] burned in their lust for one another.’ (Rom 1:27) ‘For even their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature.' (Rom 1:26) Nature, here, is not referring to ‘mother nature’ but ‘the natural production, disposition, constitution, and usage’ of a woman.

Suppressing the Truth

Because Adam chose to defy God and partake of ‘the tree of the knowledge of good and evil’, ‘sin entered the world’ and thus ‘the wickedness of man was great in the earth and that every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.’ (Gen 2:17, Rom 5:2, Gen 6:5) Men were so wickedly brazen that ‘the men of Sodom’ blatantly demanded that angels be required to lie with them carnally. (Gen 19:1-5) That same boldness exists today. Those that are ‘about that life’ are quite audacious. They adamantly demand acceptance of who they believe God created them to be; even though the Bible explicitly states otherwise. You too may be one of those audacious ones. You try to force people to accept you; so much so, you’ve become defensive which keeps you in a never ending battle. You’ve demanded that in order to love you, we have to accept your lifestyle. For those who don’t, you’ve developed a zero tolerance policy; so much so, that you lash out, argue, debate and will fight those who defy your order. But why won’t we accept who you are? I can only truthfully speak for myself and say that in order for me to do so, I’d have to accept a lie.

Romans 1:18 says ‘…[wo]men…suppress the truth in unrighteousness.’ What that means, is if you are a lesbian, you inherently know the truth. You know God didn’t create you to be sexually attracted to women. But yet and still, you suppress the truth with your actions. And because you do, ‘…God [has given you] up to uncleanness, in the lusts of [your] heart, to dishonor [your] body among yourself, [because you] exchanged the truth of God for the lie.’ (Rom 1:24) You exchanged the truth - that God created you for man and that you’re supposed to be ‘joined to’ your husband; for a lie. (1 Cor 11:8, 9, Gen 2:24) And because you did, ‘…God gave [you] up to vile passions.’ (Rom 1:26) Not because He doesn’t love you, but because you refused to ‘retain God in your knowledge.’ On several occasions, God attempted to give you knowledge of who you are, who He is and who you are in Him, but you rejected it and Him. And as a result, your mind is now debased and please don’t be offended. What that simply means is that you’re living life without the power of God. Notice I didn’t say without Him; just without His power.

You see some believe that since you’re gay, it is impossible for you to love and serve God and that’s just not true. You do. But ‘…although [you know] God, [you] did not glorify Him as God, nor were thankful.’ You didn’t glorify God by acknowledging you are a ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’ woman uniquely created by God; nor were you thankful that it was His decision that you be one. (Ps 139:14) Instead, you ‘became futile in [your] thoughts’ and started thinking you weren’t what God created you to be. What happened is that you’ve yielded to what the Bible calls an unclean spirit. It can best be described in what I discovered a few years back.

While riding the bus, I overheard a gay gentleman get unusually